Tuesday, January 1, 2013

God's Design and Purpose in the Creation of Man and the Marital Union - Heterosexuality versus Homosexuality




God’S Design and Purpose in the Creation of Man and the Marital Union
                          – Heterosexuality versus Homosexuality

                                                         by: Rebecca R. Brown


God is not haphazard in the things that He does. He acts with purpose and is detailed in His design, leaving nothing to chance. He never threw a bunch of stars or planets into the sky to see where they would go. He made certain things for specific purposes, to fulfill a plan He had before He began the creation of our world. 

What He did do is utterly amazing. Our solar system  is an incredible system created by an incredibly loving God, who saw to it that everything was in perfect order for life on planet Earth before He created man in His own image and placed him here to live in peace.

Peace = … to make an agreement …

A state of quiet or tranquillity, freedom from disturbance or agitation; calm; repose; …

God’s divine plan for all things, is for all to work in harmony – the absence of war, for -

1. mind and will

2. body and soul

3. physical body as opposed to sickness

4. man and life

5 family

6. man and God

7. God and man

The peace that God intended for His man, would be for all things to function after His intended order or arrangement.

Man has caused himself many discomforts and problems by not following God’s plan or obeying His voice.

Consider how beautifully He set our world in order. Before man sinned against God, the atmosphere was different and the vegetation on earth did not even need rain in order to receive the moisture it needed to live and grow.

Gen. 2:5+6 … for the Lord God had not caused it to rain upon the earth, and there was no man to till the ground. 6 But there went up a mist from the earth, and watered the whole face of the ground.

mist = (Strong’s Exhausive Con.) ( in the sense of enveloping); a fog: – mist, vapor

from = (Strong’s) prop. a part of; hence (prep.) from out of in many senses …

One can imagine that with mist, or moisture coming up out of the earth, that the roots of the plants would receive moisture even before it was seen on the surface of the land.Today farmers depend on rain to fall from the sky and hope and pray there will be enough to soak down far enough into the earth so that the plants will be able to live and grow. Imagine what a difference there would be if all things worked according to the original design of Father God!

We know that the earth receives seed, the seed receives nutrition from the soil, the sun shines upon the earth, warming it and the seed below. The seed is watered, it dies and new life  sprouts from it. It is an amazing process, designed by an amazing creator!

We know better than to expect a seed to grow if left unplanted or if planted in water alone, where it will rot. We understand that in nature, that is to say, according to God’s design, there is an order to things and a way that works for good and there is another way that will not.

All upon the earth and the things above it, were arranged for the life of God’s most glorious creation, MAN, and for his good.

Why do I say His most glorious creation? Because there is nothing more glorious than God himself and man was created to be the image of God; a reflection of Him. Scripture tells us that man is the glory of God.

Gen. 1:26 And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

1 Cor. 11:7 – For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as  he is the image and glory of God: …

And so God set out to create man in His own image; man who would be the glory of God.

What is God like? In what way is man His reflection?

The word ‘God’ in Gen. 1:26 is the word elohiym; el-o-heem.’ It is the plural of the word elowahh, which means ‘God.’ Elohiym then, shows the plurality of God, who is a unit.

Deut. 6:4 Hear O Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord.

If we look at the original Hebrew words that these were translated from, we can better see the plurality of the one and only, true and living God.

Lord (Strong’s) comes from the word Yehovah, which originally was without vowels and was most sacred. It means – (the) self Existent or Eternal: Jehovah, Jewish national name of God: – Jehovah, the Lord.

God here, is (Strong’s) the word Elohiym, that we have already looked at.

The word ‘one’ is (Strong’s) echad; a numeral from achad, prop. united, that is, one; or (as an ordinal) first …

Considering the meanings of the words in this verse, we might see it as saying, Hear O Israel, our self Existent, plural God, is united, is (one) Yehovah.

While such a God may be hard to fathom, can you imagine what it would be like to creat a reflection of this God? But He did so when He created man!

Gen. 1:27 So God created man (a human being [Strong’s]) in his own image, in the image of God (elohiym) created he him, male and female created he them.

created he him (Strong’s) bara; to create … – eth; in the demonstr. sense of entity …

Now go with me to look at how God did this.

Gen. 2:7 And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.

First God formed man out of the dust of the ground. Before He breathed into his nostrils, he was man! But he was a man without life. He was an amazing body, consisting of everything he needed but with no life with which to activate or motivate him.

Look at the awesomeness of the human body with a heart only slightly larger than a human fist that beats some 80,000 – 100,000 times a day and pumps about 2,000 gallons every day. There is a small intestine, coiled in the center of the abdominal cavity that is approx. 20 feet long, not to mention the large intestine. According to the Franklin Institute, “a single drop of blood contains millions of red blood cells which are constantly traveling through your body delivering oxygen and removing waste.”

There is the brain, that is like a magnificent computer.  There are all of the organs and so much more. Yet we understand that none of the internal organs would have operated without the breath of God bringing Adam’s body to life and setting it in motion.

When God breathed His very own breath, the breath of life, into Adam, this man became a living soul. Notice it does not say that he was not a man before God breathed into him. It does not say that the soul was the real person and the body just a house for him to live in. It does not say that there was a soul waiting for a body to live in. Though many such ideas have been considered and some believed, it is not what the Word of God says. We are told here in Gen. that when God breathed into the man’s nostrils, he became a living soul.

living = (Strong’s) chay; alive, hence raw (flesh; flesh …)

soul = (Strong’s) nephesh; prop. a breathing creature

The man that God had created became a living, breathing creature, the moment he received God’s breath of life! His flesh came to life as well as his mind. This was the the man, created in the image of Father God, in that he was created with the ability to ‘father’. But the image of Elohiym was not yet complete.

The Word of God went on to say “male and female created he them.”

God, being a plural unit, His image would also require the same.

Now let’s look at how this took place.

Gen. 2:20 … but for Adam there was not found a help meet for him.

There has been great misunderstanding based on this word ‘found’. It was translated from the Hebrew – matsa; mean. prop. to come forth to, that is, appear or exist …

It is not suggesting that God and Adam looked all over the place and just couldn’t find a help meet that was suitable or that would please and satisfy Adam. It is telling us that a help mate for Adam did not yet exist. She had not yet ‘come forth’, for God had a plan to create her from Adam’s own body. God already knew what He had planned to do, before He ever began and in fact, before He ever began creating the Earth.

Isaiah 46:10 Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times the things that are not yet done, saying My counsel shall stand, and I will do all my pleasure:

Heb. 4:3 … although the works were finished from the foundation of the world.

Keep in mind that God’s intention was to create His own image. So He began the process which He had planned from the beginning; to create His image that would be a reflection of Him on the earth.

Gen. 2:21 – 25 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and He slept: and he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man made he a woman, and brought her to the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother. and shall cleave to his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

The first thing we are told that God did, was to put the man to sleep. So Adam had to submit himself into the hands of God, trusting himself and his life to God, in order to receive his bride.

One day, in the future, Jesus would submit himself into the hands of His Father and be put to death, in order to receive His bride. Interestingly, in the New Testament, Christians who died were referred to as being asleep; those who sleep in Christ. When a child of God dies, it is known that he will get up again, so sleep is a good description of their condition. I think we can see many representations of the work of our Lord and Savior, in the process of creating the woman, including Adam’s sleep, as representative of the death Christ would suffer in order to receive a bride.

While Adam slept, God opened his side and took out a rib. It does not say a piece of a rib, but a rib. While Jesus was on the cross, His side was opened and he shed blood. Not one of His bones were broken. As far as we know, not one of Adam’s bones were broken on the process of the creation of his bride, but one was removed.

Adam would say, after he was awakened, that the woman was both bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh. Apparently some of Adam’s flesh was taken to be used in making the woman. Verse 21 tells us that God “closed up the flesh instead thereof.”

In Hebrew the words ‘closed up” is the word – ‘cagar’, meaning to shut up; figuratively – to surrender: close up, deliver (up) … The meaning suggests that God actually opened Adam’s flesh. He did not supernaturally remove it, without an operation. Rather He put him to sleep and opened him up.

If we took the meaning “to surrender up or to deliver up” He might then be saying that Adam surrenderd a piece of his flesh to the Lord to be used in creating his bride.

The blood is in the flesh. The life of the flesh is in the blood. (Lev. 17:14) So Adam shed blood in order to receive a bride that would truly be a part of himself. He gave lifeblood, or flesh with life in it.

Jesus would one day shed His blood in order to receive a bride for himself. I believe this was a serious blood covenant. Adam first shed blood. After this, women would shed blood when the hymen was broken in intercourse. Intercourse was never to happen without the covenant of marriage.

flesh 1320 basar; flesh (from it’s freshness); by exten. body, person; also (by euphemism) the pudenda of a man: – …

Pudenda n. pl. ["., from pudendus that which one ought to be ashamed.] (Anat.) The external organs of generation. [1913 Webster]

instead 8478 – tachath; the bottom (as depressed); only adv. below (often with prep. pref.  underneath), in lieu of, etc:- as, beneath, …

(Just a thought – If God took flesh from beneath, and since one of the meanings for ‘flesh’ can be a euphemism, for the pudenda, or the genitals of man, could the flesh God took have been the foreskin? If it was, then Adam would have shed blood from that which would be joined to his wife, as woman  later would shed blood when first receiving her husband. This could also be a clue as to why circumcision was chosen as the sign of the covenant between God and His people, Israel. This could be a symbol of two becoming one flesh. –  Something to consider!)

When Adam saw his wife for the first time, he was looking at his own rib, his own flesh. His own blood likely flowed through that flesh, because of the blood that was in the flesh God had used in creating her. While woman was indeed an individual, yet at the same time, she was a very real part of her husband. They truly were one flesh. Now Adam, being created by God, had never seen a marriage before. He had never seen a human father and mother together, nor witnessed human birth. Yet with knowledge and understanding, he made this statement, upon seeing the woman.

” … This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

When Adam first saw Eve, he knew what had taken place while he slept. He also knew that after this, God would not be putting every individual male to sleep to perform the same operation on them in order for him to have a wife. He knew that children would come by means of the marital union of man and wife and that in due time a man should leave his parents and, by choice, join himself to one woman. He was to cleave to his wife and the two of them were to be considered literally one flesh.

To cleave, according to the Hebrew, is to – impinge, that is, cling or adhere …

There was a reason for this. Adam said  ”… Therefore shall a man …”

Therefore or because of the way God had created Eve of Adam’s own bone and flesh, that is to say, because God made the two of them to be one, which is in the likeness and image of God, every man after this, is to view himself and his wife in the same manner.

It had not been good for the man to be alone, or that is, incomplete.

Alone = (Greek, Strong’s) – bad; prop. separation; by impl. a part of the body …

So, since it was not good for Adam to be only a part of the body, but not yet completed -

Gen. 1:27 So God created man in his image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

In the creation of Adam is the evidence that God knew before he created him, that he would be creating a help that was suitable for him, who would complete him and the image of God. Adam was in the image of Father God, in that he was made with the ability to ‘father.’ He had all of his reproduction organs and was wired to respond to a woman, before he had even laid eyes on one. How do we know that it was woman he was meant to respond to? Because it was specifically a woman who God created to be his help meet and receive his seed.

Adam had the ability to give seed, but there was no one to receive it and no garden for it to be planted in. He had all of his reproduction organs. The muscles, nerves and blood vessels were all in working order to produce penile erection and the giving of seeds, capable of beginning new life when absorbed by a female ovum. All this was a part of Adam before his help mate appeared on the scene, because God had His plan set, before he made Adam. He had known the end from the beginning.

When Adam did see the mate that God had created for him, out of his own body, he saw the vessel for which these things were created; the vessel to carry his seed; the garden for it to be planted in; the incubator to hold it and the vessel to nurture and protect it until it came forth as new life!

1 Thes. 4:4 That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour.

1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife … that your prayers be not hindered.

God prepared this vessel perfectly, including every minute detail. Even the entrance to man’s garden was prepared with specific care and honor for both the man and the woman, who were one. The woman was created with a vagina that is self cleansing, which will self lubricate during sexual arousal, in order to reduce friction, when she reseives the male penis. It cleanses itself to receive the man and his seed.

According to www.atihealth.net.com – “During sexual excitement, droplets of fluid appear along the vaginal walls and eventually cover the sides of the vagina completely. The vaginal tissue does not contain any secretory glands itself, but is loaded with blood vessels, which when engorged as a result of sexual arousal, press against the tissue, forcing natural tissue fluids through the walls of the vagina.”

What amazing design by a loving and perfect God!

Yes every detail was planned and set in order for the union of the male and female, when God created man! Adam’s help mate was created perfectly to receive and unite with him! Nothing was left to chance!

When Adam woke from sleep and saw his help mate, he knew what God had done, the purpose of what had been done and what it was to mean in the future.

Gen. 2:23+24 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Notice that there was no question in Adam’s mind as to what was to take place from that time on. He stated as fact, that after this a man ‘shall’  - not might want to, or might make the choice to, or might like the idea of, but ‘SHALL’ leave his father and mother and cleave, or that is, glue to or attach himself to his wife and the two; the man and his wife, the male and the female, would be one flesh.

It was not necessary for God to tell us that He does not mean for animal and man, male and male or female and female to become one flesh, for He clearly stated what was to be. He was very clear when he stated that a man and his wife were to be joined together and become one flesh. If He has said how it is to be, it is enough!

Matt. 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.


                              What did God join together?

                            Male and female, man and wife!

Notice it says “no more” and these are not hard words to understand –not ever again.

Do you notice that the union of the man and woman is said here to be something that God has done? It was He who joined them together.  Again it is shown, that this was God’s own design and plan and that He takes it very seriously.

                                                Why?

Well for one very good reason, this was HIS image; HIS reflection on the earth. When God created man in his image, male and female created he them! He was not going to approve a breaking up or distortion of His own image. Take a look at Gen.5:1+2

This is the generations of Adam. In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God (Elohiym) made he him. 2. Male and female created he them, and blessed them and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.

On the day that God created man, He created them male and female and called both of them by one name – Adam! Some Bible translations have left out the words “called their name” and just said something like ” called them man, or human or mankind. But I consider this a dangerous error.
In the Hebrew the word for ‘name’ is shem; a prim. word [perh. rather (siym) through the idea of definite and conspicuous position; ...]; an appellation, as a mark of individuality; by impl. honor, …

According to the dictionary, appellation is – 1. The act of appealing; appeal 2. The act of calling by name 3. the word by which a particular person or thing is called and known; name; title; designation.  [1913 Webster]

It seems that God was not just speaking of human kind in general, but was calling the man and the woman by a particular name and that name was Adam. In other words God called them both, who were one flesh, by only one name. It was a mark of individuality, as God saw them as one.

This word ‘name’ is the same word used in Gen. 16: 15, when Abram called his son’s name Ishmael. It is important to see the truth of this and to understand the extent that God considered the man and his wife to be one.

I am not making too much of too little. Too often people have made too little of much. It is not wise to always skim over what is written in the Word of God. We need to take time to look closely at what is being said. It was after the woman sinned that we read that Adam called her by a name separate from his own.

Gen. 3:20 And Adam called his wife’s name Eve; because she was the mother of all living.

Again in Mark, God’s intention is made known.

Mark 10:8 And they twain (two) shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.

This agrees with what is written in Eph. 5:28+29 – “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh …”

John 10:30 I and my Father are one.

John 17:11 And now I am no more in the world, but these are in the world, and I come to thee. Holy Father, keep through thine own name those whom thou hast given me, that they may be one, as we are one.
John 17:22 And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one:

First God created man in His image, the two to be one, as God the Father and Jesus Christ are one. Later, after salvation was brought by Jesus, God called all those who were redeemed, his body and called for a oneness, or that is, to be unified; -  each member as being part of the body of Christ; individual members, a part of each other in Christ. Both were to have the Holy Spirit in their lives.
The truth of the Godhead; single, plural unit that makes up the one and only true and living God, can be seen reflected in all of creation, but especially in the way He created man; male and female created He them!

Am I saying then, that God is both male and female? Not in the sense that we know it. Remember we are a reflection, not an exact duplicate. There are things in the make up of feminine man that reflect certain aspects of God and His character and things in the make up of the male that reflects other aspects of God. One alone is an incomplete image.

There is blessing and peace in following God, honoring Him, His Word and His will. His will is seen when we look at what He did in the beginning; how and what He created. Walking in His Spirit, and his will, according to His plan and design, brings peace, for we are not at war with how He set things in motion.

Can you imagine, however, how Satan must have felt upon seeing God create an image of Himself and then to give them dominion over all the earth? Satan had tried to lift himself above God, but failed. Now this position of authority and power is handed to the man without any effort on his part. Satan desires to rule, without see the image of God at every turn; having to watch him have what Satan wants! It is no wonder he set about quickly to put a stop to both, the image and the dominion!

He is still working hard to keep mankind from understanding God or man’s purpose and power.
Many have turned from God’s plan to live their own way, rejecting God’s. Some do not even understand what they are doing, why it is wrong, nor the insult it is to God. But consider what happens when a man goes against the plan of God.

Romans 1:7, 16-28 To all that be in Rome, beloved of God, called to be saints: Grace to you and peace from God our Father, and the Lord Jesus Christ.

You may not be in Rome, but are you beloved of God? Are you called to be a saint of God? Grace to you! Peace to you!

This grace is, in the Greek, charis; graciousness (as gratifying), of manner or act (abstr. or concr.; lit. or fig. or especially the divine influence upon the heart, and its reflection in the life; including gratitude.

May you have the peace of God and His divine influence upon your heart and may His influence be reflected in your life!

16. For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Jesus Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and to the Greek.
17. For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written. The just shall live by faith.
(Note; - The righteousness of God is revealed in the gospel of Jesus Christ!)
18. For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness.

The wrath of God is revealed against all unrighteousness and ungodliness.

wrath  = (Greek) orge, or-gay’; prop desire (as reaching forth or excitement of the mind), that is, (by anal.) violent passion (ire, or [justifiable] abhorance); by impl. punishment:- anger, indignation, vengeance, wrath.

ungodliness = asebeia, as-eb’-i-a; impiety, that is, (by impl.) wickedness: – ungodly (-ness).

impiety = 1. The quality of being impious; irreverence toward the Supreme Being; ungodliness; wickedness. [1913 Webster]

hold = katecho, kat-ekh’-o; to hold down (fast), in various applications (lit. or fig.): – … possess, retain, … withhold.

                                                WHY?

19. Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shown it unto them.
20. For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:

manifest = (Greek) phaneroo, fan-er-o’-o;to render apparent (lit. or fig.):- appear, manifestly declare, (make) manifest (forth), shew (self).

When a person does not show reverence and respect to God, this is ungodliness. Such an attitude and behavior results in the wrath of God.
Wrath is more than being a little displeased, but bespeaks of violent passion, abhorrence, vengeance and punishment. What is it that stirs God so? It is the fact that man has the evidence of God and His power, manifest or made known ‘in’ him and yet lives ungodly and unrighteously. 

            Yes the truth of God is right there inside of each of us!

It is in our make up. God and His eternal power; the things of God that we cannot see with our eyes, can be clearly seen and understood, by the very things God has made; even the things from the creation of the world! So there is no excuse to be irreverent toward God and to live with disrespect toward Him!

The invisible things of God are clearly seen and understood by the things that He made! We have already seen how God made man in His image in the beginning, and now we are told that what may be known of God is ‘in’ man. God wrote a story of himself in us!

21. Because that, when they knew God, they glorified Him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.
22. Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools.
23. And changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like unto corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things.

Notice it does not say that they had no understanding from the start, but contrariwise, they did know, but their heart became darkened. The truth of God is written within us, even if we have been told a lie that seemed very persuasive! Even if we search for reasons to believe something contrary to His truth.

24 Wherefore God gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonor their own bodies between themselves:
uncleanness = (Greek) akatharsia, ak-ath-ar-see’-ah; impurity (the quality) phys. or mor.: uncleaness.

Man changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like unto corruptible man.

We have seen in 1 Cor. 11:7 that man is the glory of God. The eternal power and Godhead is to be seen in what God has made and He has made man in His image!
Man is a reflection, an image, not an exact duplicate. When man is seen, a reflection of God is to be seen. If you change the image, you cause a distorted and untrue picture to be seen. But man took it upon himself to change the glory of the incorruptible God.

 What foolish pride to try to change the glory of the incorruptible God  - into something on man’s level and of his own making, rather than to recognize the image of God that He has placed in us and to glorify Him for the magnificence of what He has done and for WHO He is!
1:25. Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshiped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.

                      Who changed the truth of God into a lie!

Do you hear the scripture? Some may say that homosexual behavior is a private matter and hurts no one - or - no one but the participants. But this is a matter between God and the man He created. These actions are calling God a liar! It is serving self - man creating his own gods; worshiping what was created rather than God himself! 

Of course the truth will always be the truth. We have heard it said that someone has twisted our words or changed what we have said. What was said, was said. This cannot really be changed. But it can be misrepresented or lied about.

Man has taken it upon himself to turn away from the true image of God, seen in the marital union of man and woman and to proclaim that it is just as acceptable; that it is justifiable to have union, man with man or woman with woman, thus changing the truth; perverting the image, - CHANGING THE TRUTH OF GOD INTO A LIE! This is giving oneself a position above God and His divine plan, will and purpose!

If you had a beautiful portrait of your late mother hanging in your house; a picture that expressed, not only her physical beauty, but also seemed to reflect the loving, caring person she had been, you would not appreciate someone coming in and altering the picture. If someone were to paint a bottle of whiskey in her hand, a cigarette hanging from he lip, rips in her dress and hair in her face, you would likely be furious! Not only had the picture been destroyed, but the character and heart of your mother slandered. Her image was perverted.

But for man, the image of God is to be reflected in himself. To pervert that image is serving self over God. And it has been done in worship to other gods, as well,  destroying God’s true image while worshiping another and serving self.

According to Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, concerning homosexuality in ancient Greece – In classic antiquity writers such as Herodotus, Plato, Xenophon, Athenaeus and many others explored aspects of same-sex love in ancient Greece. The wide spread and socially significant form of same-sex sexual relations in ancient Greece was between adult men and pubescent or adolescent boys, known as pederasty. (However marriages in Ancient Greece between men and women were also age structured, with men in their 30s commonly taking wives in their early teens.) Though homosexual relationships between adult men did exist, at least one member of each of these relationships flouted social conventions by assuming a passive sexual role. It is unclear how such relations between women were regarded in general society, but examples do exist as far back as the time of Sappho.

An article on connelodonovan.com says this – The worship of Horned Apollo includes ecstatic naked dancing and feats of acrobatics (including an early form of two-man ritual volleyball with a bright purple ball!) followed by sex performed by young men.

Rom. 1:26. For this cause God gave them up to vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

change = (Greek) metallasso, met-al-las’-so; to exchange: – change.

natural = (Greek) phusikos, foo-see-kos’; “physical”, that is (by impl.) instinctive: – natural.

use = (Greek) cabak; chersis, Khray’-sis; employment, that is (specially) sexual intercourse (as an occupation of the body): – use

nature = (Greek) phusis, foo’-sis; growth (by germination or expansion), that is, (by impl.) natural production (lineal descent); by extens. a genus or sort; fig. native disposition, constitution or usage: – ([man-]) kind, nature ([-al]).

Here a person might be quick to say that natural use would be that which is natural or instinctive to an individual. So then, if homosexuality is natural to a person, it is acceptable. But in truth, the scripture is saying quite the opposite, for it is speaking of women – exchanging - a natural use for something that is against nature. What should have been natural to them is rejected and they have embraced an alternative lifestyle.

It must always be accepted, when speaking of ‘nature’ - scripturally - that God is the basis for the truth. Nature must be understood to be (as seen in the definition) the natural, or that is, God given production: what God himself produced, that is, designed and created. Otherwise there is no foundation for truth at all.

A serial rapist can say that raping victims comes natural to him. Whatever a person gives himself over to and makes a habit of doing may come to seem natural to him. This can be especially so if it was developed as a child. If a tiny child learns to lie and gets by with it, after he is grown he may never remember a time when he did not lie and so say that it is natural to him. But God did not create us to lie.

If a person is abused at a very young age, when he is older, he may not be able to remember what he was like before this happened to him. Though he may become shy and fearful, he may have once been light hearted and confident before the abuse took place. However he may not be able to remember ever feeling joyful or confident.

God is obviously speaking of an exchange. There was something that was natural, or  according to the design of God in the woman’s very body, but she decided to exchange that for something that was not.

God created the woman to receive the seed of the man and He stated that her union was to be with man; that they were to cease being two and become one. Her body naturally produces ovum that are ready to unite with the sperm of the man, then be planted in her womb, thus treasuring and valuing the seed of man and life itself. This is the design of God and so it is natural and fitting to her design. If she exchanges this natural use, for something else, turning away from the male to find sexual pleasure in another way, she is going against nature, or, that is to say, against God’s own design and purpose.

There are Lesbians who desire to carry a child in their womb and have children of their own, even though they have rejected the natural use of the man. It is a part of their natural makeup. Some will get with a man just for the purpose of receiving his seed and having a child.

The result of women leaving the natural use of the man was that God gave them up to vile affections.
God gave them over = (Greek) paradidomi; to surrender, that is, yield up, … autos; [ ... through the idea as a baffling wind] (backward); reflex. pron. self, used.

vile (Greek) atimia; infamy, that is comparative indignity, (obj.) disgrace: – dishonour, reproach, shame, vile.

affections = (Greek) pathos; prop. suffering, (“pathos”), that is (subj.) a passion (espec. concupiscence): – (inordinate) affection, lust.

God surrendered them over to passions, lust, suffering and inordinate affection, that were vile, or that is, shameful.

Inordinate In-or-di-nate. a [L. inordinatus dosordered. See In-not, and Ordinate.] Not limited to rules prescribed, or to usual bounds; irregular; excessive; immoderate; as, an inordinate love of the world.
[1913 Webster]

Merriam-Webster – definition of inordinate = 1. archaic: disorderly, unregulated 2. exceeding reasonable limits: immoderate

These affections that God gave them up to were ‘inordinate’, that is they were not limited to prescribed rules or bounds, which God himself had put in place. They did not honor God or respect His image; the reflection of himself on earth! They were irregular, excessive and immoderate, all of which are opposite of God

27. And likewise also their men, leaving the natural use of the woman burned in their lust one toward another: men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves the recompense of their error which was meet.

Here again we have the leaving of the God given natural use, designed into man’s being, for something other than God’s intention. “Likewise” or that is, similarly to what the women did, men (Greek arrhen= male) were leaving (Greek aphiemi= … forsake, to lay aside, leave) the natural use of the woman.

It would seem that a person must have a strong need to change the truth of God, or a fear of facing their own true condition, to deny what is clearly written in Gen. about the natural use of the woman, or to deny nature; that which her body is clearly designed for. No reasoning will change the fact of the woman’s body and even her hormones. Any medical doctor can tell us what the womb, vagina and ovaries etc. are for.

To deny these facts is to let your foolish heart be darkened. But the men being spoken of in these scriptures had chosen to forsake the God given use of the woman and do something else instead that they had chosen. They burned in their lust, man for man.

Burned (Greek) = to inflame deeply: – burn lust (Greek) = excitement of the mind, thatis, longing after: lust.

If this was not God’s intended use, then it is an idea that comes from His adversary, who surely must hate the idea of seeing the image of God spread across the earth. Whether through divorce, heterosexual or homosexual fornication or worse, he has worked hard at destroying that image; keeping it from ever being seen or understood, and/or perverting it completely. Through assaults on children that confuse their understanding of who they are and what their bodies are meant for, through lies and deception, by pornography and it’s shocking effect on the human psyche, playing havoc with the emotions, hormones and mental understanding etc. He has worked diligently to keep the image of God from being known and God himself from being honored.

1Cor. 6:13, 18 +20 … Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. 18. Flee fornication … 20. For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.

These men burned in their lust one toward another, men with men working that which is unseemly and not glorifying God in their bodies, which are supposed to belong to the Lord.

working (Greek) = to work fully, that is, accomplish; by implication, to finish, fashion: – cause, do (deed), perform, work (out).

unseemly (Greek) aschemosune = an indecency; by implication the pudenda: – shame, that which is unseemly.

Merriam-Webster – definition of PUDENDUM - the external genital organs as a human being and especially of a woman – usually used in plural Pudenda.

Pu-den-da, n. pl. [L., from pudendus that of which one ought to be ashamed, fr. pudere to be ashamed.] (Anat.) The external organs of generation. [1913 Webster]

It is interesting to see that in the definition of the word ‘unseemly’ is the word pudenda, which is the external genital organs, or organs of generation. They performed, with their pudenda, that which was indeed indecent; that which was against ‘nature’ ; the design of God.

There is no use for the sperm, in the homosexual act. God’s purpose is set aside, forsaken, left. The life giving sperm that should be appreciated and respected, for which God had prepared a place, a garden in which to be planted, is, in the homosexual act, discarded as so much waste. God even prepared a self cleansing place for the male penis to enter and give his seed, but in the homosexual act, it is thrust into a place God prepared for dung to pass through and be discarded.
What a fitting insult to God the creator. It is as if to say, I reject the image that was to be reflected in me, your image. I reject my ability to father. I reject your purpose. I not only disrespect and disregard the life giving flow you supplied my body with but I cast it into the place of uncleanness made for dung! I will never honour you or your image with it! No! I will not retain the knowledge of my creator and reflect Him in my body or be the image He created me to be!

Having worked that which is unseemly, or that is, shameful with the pudenda, these man receive in themselves the recompense (Compensation) of their error which was meet. They received the compensation that is as it should be.

28. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient.

Notice it does not say that God gave them a reprobate mind. Rather that He surrendered them to, or yielded them up to that which they had chosen.

                                 What is a reprobate mind?

reprobate = (Greek) unapproved, that is, rejected; by impl. worthless (lit. or moral): – cast away, rejected, reprobate.

mind = (Grek) nous; the intellect, that is, mind (divine or human; in thought, feeling, or will); by implication meaning – mind, understanding.

They did not like to retain God in their knowledge. Knowledge here means (Gr.); recognition, that is, (by implication) full discernment, acknowledgment: – (ac) knowledge (-ing – ment).

They did not like to retain God in their full discernment. Remember that the invisible things of God can be clearly seen by that which is made and God is manifest ‘in’ us. But these did not like to retain a clear image of God, who and what He is, as represented in the creation of His image – MAN. So He yielded them up to those things that were not convenient.

There are those who desire to be Christian and to praise and worship God in various ways, while retaining a homosexual identity, or while living in heterosexual fornication. We cannot truly worship and honor a creator, who we refuse to acknowledge for who and what He is. He is light and light has no fellowship with darkness.

Those who have done and lived in the actions described in Romans chapter one, have dishonored God and not been willing, and/or not known how to fully retain Him in their knowledge and have dishonored themselves as well.

It is no wonder that it is hard for a homosexual to grasp and fully accept the words of scripture as given here, if they have been given over to a mind that is separated from God and the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Yet anyone who will come into agreement with the Word of God, whether fully understood or not; who will say “Let God be truth and every man a liar” has the opportunity of being healed from unnatural ways they have gone against God. Whether this was a conscious decision or not, to pervert God’s creation, His purpose and image, is to go against God.

First we must agree with God, acknowledge the error of our ways and repent. Then and only then can we be delivered and healed.

I am not saying that all who have lived in error have done so with a conscious intention to go against God, or that they even know how their condition came about. Still it is vital to come into agreement with God and His Word and humble ones self before Him, in order to receive forgiveness and deliverance.

Acts 3:19 Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come in the presence of the Lord;

The lifestyle a person has lived may have been the results of things done to them at such a young age, they cannot even clearly recall the immediate effect of the act; including the fear, confusion and pain.

When Satan attacks a person, he desires to hurt or win a victory over God. He knows how God loves His creation and he wants to keep them from comprehending God as He is, or seeing God’s reflection in themselves and others on the earth.

But God is a supernatural God. It doesn’t matter how much you think you have tried to change, or to the contrary, how much you have attempted to convince yourself that the thoughts and lusts you have, that go against the Word of God, are really acceptable to Him, God remains unchanged and His Word will endure forever. He is still able to heal, change, and deliver you; to help you become the person you were meant to be, to come to know the real you, you have never yet known.

Many have never known who they were really meant to be or how to live free from the bondages they cannot shake and that have been there for as long as they can remember. Still God’s ability to restore you has never diminished. He is willing and able to save to the uttermost and to give you the peace of God that passes all understanding.

Heb. 7:25 Wherefore he is able to save to the uttermost that come unto God by him, seeing that he ever liveth to make intercession for them.

Romans 3:4 God forbid: yea, let God be true, but every man a liar, as it is written, That thou mightest be jusitified in thy sayings and mightest overcome when thou art judged.

                   AMEN! SO BE IT! PRAISE GOD FOR ALL TIME!





Friday, April 22, 2011

THE WORD

THE WORD

John 1:1-5 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
2 The same was in the beginning with God.

3 All things were made by him; and without him was not anything made that was made.
4 In him was life; and the life was the light of men.
5 And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not.

Revelation 19:13 … and his name is called The Word of God.

Exodus 3:13 &14 And Moses said unto God, Behold, when I come unto the children of Israel, and shall say unto them, The God of your fathers hath sent me unto you; and they shall say to me, What is his name? What shall I say to them?
14 And God said unto Moses, I AM THAT I AM: and he said, thus shalt thou say unto the children of Israel, I AM hath sent me unto you.

Psalm 119:105 & 106 Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.
106 I have sworn, and I will perform it, that I will keep thy judgments.

While I am a mother and grandmother, the foundation of my life is Jesus Christ and His Word.

Today I want to talk about Jesus and that Word, which is the source of all we need for life and life more abundantly. All that we live, should be based on our Lord and His Word. He is the living Word.

Many claim Christianity, but how many understand that Jesus himself is said to be the Word of God? He and the Word cannot be separated. If you have been born again, then you must have heard at least a portion of the Word of God, or heard about it and believed what you heard. But if you want to really know Him; know more of Him and grow closer to him, then go to Him through His Word.

The Word of God should hold equal value to the believer as the value he places on Jesus himself. For Jesus is the Word of God. He is the Word that came from Heaven, sent by the Father and He did accomplish what He came to do. He did not return to the Father, void, or that is, not having accomplished what He was sent to do. (Isaiah 55:11)

This being true then, we should never ignore the Word, attempt to bend it or break it to fit the life we are wanting to live, nor try to weaken it's meaning or power.
If God's Word says a thing is good, or a blessing, even if it does not seem to fit well into today's society, like, for example – Psalm 127:3 &5

3 Lo, Children are a heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

We should not disagree, even if it is not what we want or because we cannot imagine the blessing in it. It is important that we always agree with the Word, first and foremost. We can ask God to give us understanding, but it is vital that we never disagree with Him or His Word.

Even when we find ourselves forced to live in a situation that we see as less than God's original design, we should still continue to believe and attest to the truth of what He says is best. For example, the Word tells us that God intended for a man and wife to be one (unified) and a reflection of God himself. (Gen. 1:26 & 27) If a person has been abandoned by their spouse, he finds himself forced to live without that oneness and unity of body, heart and mind. If, however we still agree with God's Word and do not attempt to find some way to get around it, we may yet see God move in a supernatural way for us and see our end be better than our beginning.

If you find yourself a single mother, with no husband to provide for you and your children, do not then say that you never needed a man anyway or that being a single parent is just as good as your children having a family unit with two parents. If your spouse was abusive, your children may be better off away from them, for the time, yes, but God's plan, His way and His purpose is still right, good and best. The abuser has stepped outside of the will and plan of God, but this does not change the truth of the Word.

Agree with God on what His Word says, then you can go to him for help and wisdom, when things are not according to His plan. Yes He is able to give you and yours, peace and joy even in the midst of a situation that is not according to the way He designed it to be. But make sure you never deny the Word, because of those who turn their back on it.

Sometimes when a person, or family, is living according to the plan of God, they are not understood by many, who are living according to the mindset of today's society and the way of the world. Never be ashamed to testify of the joy you experience when living in His will, just because others may not want to hear it because they have either not chosen to live according to the Word of God, or have been forced to live in an unfortunate situation.

In following God and His way, you will have experiences and joys others have missed; often even those who are trying to live as Christians but conform their Christianity to many of the ways of the world. These may not understand the life you have chosen. Some may even resent the blessings you have attained and do enjoy. But whatever you do, do not hide your light because it makes others uncomfortable!

I was widowed in 1989 and left with four children to raise. Still I find joy in seeing families that are together and husbands and wives who love each other and give to each other unselfishly. I still hold to the importance of children having both father and mother and that there is nothing better, because I know that was the design, plan and will of God. Because I had to be the only present parent for my children did not cause me to change my view of the Word of God. And God stepped in for me. He became a father to my children in a supernatural way.

Psalm 68:4 & 5 Sing unto God, sing praises to his name:extol him that rideth upon the heavens by his name Jah, and rejoice before him.
5 A father of the fatherless, a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation.

He strengthened me and helped me. I was able to go on because of His grace and love. Had I become bitter, or decided that the family unit wasn't really all that important anyway, I would have been in disagreement with His Word and would not have had access to the blessings and support He gave me. Instead I agreed with Him and looked to Him to fill in the gaps and to move supernaturally for me. He did!! Praise His name forever!

It is only when we agree with His Word; when His word abides in us, we in Him and He in us, that we can expect answers to our prayers and our needs to be met.

John 15:4 & 7 Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine, no more can ye, except ye abide in me
7 If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.

We live in a sinful world. Satan is always out to steal, kill and destroy. (John 10:10) When we are hurt because of his devices, we should definitely not change our view of God's Word. Rather we should hold on for dear life, stay in agreement with our Lord and His Word, and wait on Him to make things right. We are, after all, meant to be more than conquerors through Him who gave His life for us.

Romans 8:37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.


I will be sharing some things in following blogs, for readers to consider and hopefully to be helped and encouraged by. However I realize that I will share some things that are not commonly accepted in our world today; they do not match up to the present popular world view.

There may be those who will read and say, “I never knew that or “I did not live that way or even “I don't want to do that” or “ I cannot imagine being able to live like that.” But what I hope people will keep in mind, is that first and foremost it is important to agree with God's way and His Word.

If you learn something you did not know and did not do, do not get angry or upset, rather be glad for the information you receive, knowing that your spirit can be set free by the truth. Even if you cannot go back and redo or undo, you can find joy in the knowledge of the truth and you can spread the good news to others who can in turn be blessed and live in God's best.

When a person has never lived a particular lifestyle, and it is foreign to him, it well may be hard to comprehend. But we can rest assured that God will teach us step by step, when and if, we are willing to step out and go His way. Remember His Word will be a lamp to our feet, each step of the way, and it will also lighten the path before us.

God's Word is always right. If it doesn't come easy for you, then you have an opportunity to see God do supernatural things in your life; see him do in you, what you cannot make happen on your own! For example, you may be a spontaneous person by nature. We each have our own temperament. But what the Word of God says about patience is true nonetheless. Do not avoid the parts of the Bible that speak concerning patience just because it doesn't come easy for you.

GOD IS GOD! His Word is right 100% of the time. When you stand before him one day, you will not deny this fact. So do not deny it now. Make a conscious decision to value it now, and agree with it always. Let His Word live in you. Let Him free you from ALL unrighteousness and all that would hinder your relationship with Him. And get ready for great adventures in Him; exciting discoveries yet to come.

I admit, there is the chance that in discovering His Word and will, you may have to take action that is uncomfortable, in order to bring your life in line with His Word. But I can assure you that nothing you now have materially or relationally can compare with the riches to be found by bringing your life into obedience with the great I AM.

Do not even consider saying, “Well I have done it this way for 20 years and it works for me!” It may seem to be working, but if it is not in agreement with what God has said in His Word, it is not as good as it could or should be! Nothing is ever better than God or His way!

I believed a thing to be true for some years before discovering my error in the Word. My discovery did not gain me approval by all. But If I have the approval of God and the joy I find in His truth, I am richer than I would be otherwise. Nothing can compare with being 'in' Christ and in agreement with His heart.

You may have to give up something, if it is in the way of God's will. But what you receive is of far greater value. Never cling so tightly to what you have gained through your own accomplishments, that you forfeit God's best, His will, or even your relationship with Him, in order to keep it.

Be not deceived. You will not live in God's best, just because you prayed a sinners prayer one time. You will live in God's best when you agree with Him, who is the living Word, and choose to go His way, and trust Him to see you through, no matter what.
Let us die to 'self' that we may live fully 'in' Christ. Let us choose to live, as is spoken of in God's Word -

Col.3:3 For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.

Building Your Baby's Value in Himself

                    Psalm 127:3 Lo, children are a heritage of the
                    Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

Image that one day, just as you are finishing your evening meal, you hear a loud knock on your front door. You hurry to the door, but when you open it, there is no one standing there and no car in the drive or parked on the street. As you look around, you notice there is a large basket sitting only about two feet in front of the door. It is covered with a light, expensive looking blanket, on which is pinned a large white paper.
You open the door quickly and rush to the basket. In large print, only the words "CHILD OF GOD" are written on the note. Pulling back the blanket, slowly and carefully you see a beautiful baby, sleeping contentedly. It looks to be a new born. Very carefully you lift the baby from the basket and bring it into the crook of your arm, holding it close. You are awed by it's beauty and peacefullness. As you touch it's tiny hand, it grasps your finger tightly, but otherwise it does not stir. You look around to see if anyone is hiding or watching close by, but see no one at all.
Then suddenly you hear a voice that seems to fill the sky. You cannot tell where it comes from, for it seems to fill the air around you. It is a deep, beautiful, arresting voice. It speaks with authority and clarity. "This child is my chosen one," the voice says, and you know that it is God who is speaking. "I have chosen him to be my prophet in these last days to prepare the way for the return of my Son, Jesus Christ, who will come in power and glory. I have chosen you and only you, (and he speaks your name, gently) to care for and raise this child for me. Raise him as my own beloved child. Train him to know my ways. I have made you responsible for him. Go now and do my will!"
What words come to your mind, that might express what you would be feeling in that moment? For me, such words as fear and awe. I can imagine trembling all over, at having stood in God's presence, hearing his voice speaking directly to me and being given such an awesome responsibility.
Would you even look at this child as you did other children, knowing this child was sent here by God for his very own purpose?

                                                AND YET - 
each child that a mother carries in her womb, is a child that God wants to use for His own particular purpose! And I believe God's presence is there when a child is born.

Yes Christian mother, the child you carry is not your own. In fact Jesus paid the ultimate price for that particular child and HE wants you to see and understand that HE values it that much. Just because He has not told you what His plan is for that child's life, does not mean that He does not have one. HE DOES!

Always remember that the child you give birth to is a person Christ died for, values enough to pay the ultimate price for, and you are responsible for its care!
When you look into the innocent eyes of your newborn babe, and feel the rush of love sweep over you and permeate your being, remember that God loves him even more than you. It may be hard to imagine, yet it is true.

God requires of you to do right by HIS inheritance. You needn't fear or worry, however, for He is willing to guide you each step of the way, in your care and training of 'His" child. But it is important that you realize that your baby, is not only yours, and that you should not designate it's care to others, if you can help it. He put it into your hands and has made you responsible for it's care and training.

Your baby is God's and He requires that you realize it's value and not put your own personal desires, fleshly lusts, or selfish ambitions before it.

Matt. 18:10 Take heed that ye despise (Strong's, to think against, that is, to disesteem) not one if these little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels do always behold the face of my Father which is in heaven.

This scripture let's us know that children have angels who know that they are seen by God at all times, and they can see His face. He sees what they do as concerns His little ones at all times. How much, then, is He watching the parents who have charge of His inheritance?

Of course, we can see that He expects us to feed, shelter and train our baby, but I think it is important to begin at birth, to let our baby know how much he is valued. Every tender touch and caress tells our baby that he is loved and matters. He may not know the words, 'love' or 'value' yet, but he certainly can feel them and the effects of them. When you feed him at your breast, he feels the warmth of your body and is comforted by what he receives. These actions and touches feed his spirit, soothe his nervous system  and tell him he is valued. He begins early on to attempt interpreting the words he hears you speak. He may connect the words and the tones in which they are spoken with the treatment he receives when he hears them. We may well be pleased and amazed the first time we hear our baby speak a word, but he has been learning our language from birth; not only our words, but whether they are a language of love and acceptance, of indifference, warmth, coldness, encouragement or hate.

Dr. Frederick LeBoyer was one man who believed the most important event in a person's life to be birth and that the circumstances in which  you were born could cause traumas that you would continue to carry around, though it be unconsciously.

I do not know if Dr. LeBoyer was a christian man or not, but I do believe God allowed him to pass on some important information.

A quote from The Free Dictionary by Farlex
Leboyer method of delivery
[ləboiyā′]
Etymology: Frederick LeBoyer, French obstetrician, b. 1918
a psychophysical approach to delivery with the goal of minimizing the trauma of birth by gently and pleasantly introducing the newborn to life outside the womb. It has four aspects: a gentle controlled delivery in a quiet dimly lit room, avoidance of pulling on the head, avoidance of overstimulation of the infant's sensorium, and encouragement of maternal-infant bonding. Unnecessary intervention in the process of birth is eschewed. After delivery, the baby is gently laid on the mother's abdomen, the back is massaged as the cord stops pulsating, and, when regular spontaneous respirations are established, the baby is gently supported in a warm tub of water by the father. Many birth centers and obstetric services in the United States have found that no adverse effects result from this method. Some studies in France have suggested superior psychologic, social, and intellectual development in young children delivered by this method

What a loving idea, to ease the tiny baby into the world; to consider his needs from his very entrance into this world! Dr. LeBoyer considered birth to be an unselfish act that no man would ever know, that should not be interferred with any more than necessary.

Truly we can trust our God with the important matters of life, which He has designed and with His most treasured possession, His inheritance, the children He died for.

Birth is meant to be an unselfish act and the beginning of a life of unselfishness, in which an individual sees her life's work (and her husband's as well) to be that which God has put in her hands, HER CHILD (His child!) In the unselfish giving and loving of a mother for her child, the child first gets a glimpse of the love of God. It is a wise mother who also tells her child of God's unselfish love for him while he is but a babe in her arms, for he is already seeing an example of that love, in her.

For those mothers who have understood this position of 'motherhood' to be of the great importance it truly is, or those who are beginning now to realize this, let me make some practical suggestions and pass on a few mothering tips for building into your child, the assurance of his value.

First, for the expectant mother, make up your mind to feed your baby according to God's design. It can never be improved upon. Do not let any selfish desires get in the way of doing what is best for your (God's) baby. The Creator of the Universe, designed the best way to feed your baby. When you feed him God's way, you also feed his spirit, comfort and soothe him, and create an important bond between your baby and yourself. It is at the breast that your baby begins learning to trust you and where he can first begin to learn of the goodness of God.

 I suggest that you read 'The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding' by the Le Leche League International, as this can help you understand the beauty of breastfeeding but also help to prevent or overcome misconceptions that could hinder your experience.

Take time to enjoy holding and touching your baby. Your gentle touch speaks volumes to your baby about your love and his worth.

Whisper in your babies ear, that you love him, his daddy loves him and God loves him. Start at birth speaking to him of his value to his parents and God. Give him the sense of belonging. I use to tell my son " You are my boy, daddy's boy and God's boy"

Never show irritation or disgust when doing anything for your baby, even changing his diaper or cleaning a messy face. Let your care be a selfless mission of love. I am not saying you have to pretend changing a messy diaper is fun and doesn't stink, but give him smiles, talk to him about how you are going to make him feel all better, etc. In other words, let him see your love and value of him even in these things.

Value your baby above 'things'. Remember that Christ instructed us to take up our cross daily and to follow him. (Lk. 9:23) This means giving up self for others. Do not buy into the lie, that house cleaning, careers outside the home, or any other selfish activity is more important than he is. There will come a time for teaching him patience and that others are of value too; that he must think of others as well. But when he first comes into the world, it is of utmost importance that you instill in your baby, his value to you. If this is well established in your child, the rewards will be many.

Sing to your baby. You do not have to have a wonderful voice for your baby to benefit from being sung to. Singing is said even to effect literacy. Playing music by any means, whether radio or other sources is beneficial, but using your own voice is a personal experience.

Read the Bible first, and other books as well, to your baby, beginning at birth. Again, this is a personal experience you are sharing with him. It is a bonding experience and it begins to impart to him the value of books and the importance of the written word.

Simply enjoy your baby to the fullest. Take your time in doing so. Talk to him. Tell him how wonderfully God has made him; what a treasure he is to you and God. Talk to him of the fact that God has an important mission for him to do, and is going to use him in a wonderful way. Tell him how much you, his father and God enjoy him; what joy he brings to your life. Let him hear you say that you know he is going to learn many things and do many good things in his life. He should be assured of these things throughout his life.

In short, instill value into your child beginning at birth. It will make a wonderful difference in his life and you will be pleasing in the sight of the one who created him and put him into your care.

Proverbs 13:22 A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: ...

What inheritance can you leave with your child, that will be passed on to your grandchildren, even when you have little money to work with? The inheritance of faith in the God who loved him and gave his life for him. The inheritance of salvation and eternal life. You cannot put too much time, effort or love into instilling this knowledge into the heritage of the Lord.

Tend Your OWN Garden First

Have you noticed what a mixed up world we live in today? Some old timers might say that things used to be much simpler than they are now. For sure, with the media as it is now, a person can certainly hear a lot of differing opinions on a multitude of subjects. Without a firm grip on the truth of the Word of God a person might well become confused and uncertain.
The scripture speaks well when it says -

Prov. 16:2 All the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes; but the Lord weigheth the spirits.

God does have an order for the matters of our lives, although so often, well meaning people, even in the name of ministry, give out harmful messages.

I would like you to put yourself into a little story with me, to illustrate an important truth. Are you ready?

Imagine that you have planted a good sized vegetable garden. (Even if you have never planted a thing in your life, just imagine it to be so. :)) You have spent a lot of time preparing this garden to produce a bountiful crop of beautiful, healthy vegetables. You have tilled the soil, removed rocks and weeds and have been careful to break up any large dirt clots, so that the soil will be fine and ready for the seed. You have added vitamins to the soil, planted, mulched and watered. You have even planted flowers that add to the beauty of the garden and aide in distracting insects and bugs.
Now as you stand looking over your garden on a fine, warm, summer day, you are pleased to see tiny green shoots that have popped through the soil. It looks as if they are little green arms raised towards the sky, rejoicing in the warmth and brightness of the sun and fresh air. They are so tiny, yet so healthy, young, tender and full of life.
You smile and feel satisfied with what you have accomplished, feeling hopeful of a lovely crop to come. As you turn about looking over the garden, you notice your neighbor's garden. It is not nearly so well tended as your own, and there are a lot of weeds needing to be pulled. However there are vegetables that are beginning to be seen on some of the vines. Her garden was, apparently planted earlier than your own.
Suddenly you cry out, as you see a number of rabbits munching away at the new tender growth. You leave your garden gate open, as you run through it, waving your arms and calling out, in an attempt to frighten the rabbits away. Through the neighbor's garden gate you go, successfully running several fluffy bunnies out between loose boards of the fence. But you soon realize that there is another group of larger rabbits nibbling away on the other side. Dashing after them, they scatter, searching for a way to get away from you as fast as they can. Just as the last fat bunny has escaped, you see your neighbor hurrying toward the garden, cursing in anger. "Get out of my garden!" she yells, as she comes closer to you. "Mind your own business! I can take care of my own garden! Go home now!"
You stare at her in unbelief. No words of thanks for all your trouble; no acknowledgment of the fact that you have just saved much of her garden?
"Can't you hear me?" she fairly spits. "Get now or you will be in trouble for trespassing!"
Shaking your head in anger and disbelief, you turn and walk back to your own garden. Just as you step inside the gate, you see fluffy tails scurrying about and a dozen or more rabbits dash past you and out the gate.
In dismay, you gasp. Much of the pretty green shoots that only moments before seemed almost to smile with their own new life, are gone! Most have been eaten off! You sit down in a path for a minute and begin to cry. But only for a minute. Then you get up and begin to inspect plant after plant, smoothing the soil around each one, talking to them as if they knew what you were saying. "Damage has been done," you say, "but with care and work, you may still live to grow and produce."
As you walk around the fence, inspecting it carefully, to make sure no critters can get through it, another neighbor approaches, wearing a big smile and giving a jolly greeting. "Could you possibly help me with my garden?" she asks. "since I have never grown a garden of my own before and I see you know all about gardening."
You smile wearily and answer. "You may watch me as I tend my own garden," you say. "You may learn from my mistakes. I will be glad to talk to you as I work and give what information I have. But I must tend my own garden, before I help anyone else. We each must grow our own garden."

Thinking of a story like this, it only makes sense for a person to make sure to tend their own garden first, rather than loose it. Especially when there is no one else to do it for you.
But isn't it interesting how seldom this is understood in more serious matters of life?
How many mothers leave their own children in the hands of someone else, who may or may not be a mother herself, while they either do other work or even take care of another woman's children for wages?
No one should be able to know, understand or love a child like it's own mother, yet today so many important things get turned around. Now I understand that there are cases where a mother has been left with no husband to provide and must do what she can to provide for herself. Still there are multitudes of mothers who make the choice to put their children in another's care for reasons that are not absolutely of necessity. There is something that they value so much, think they must have, or fear being without, that they make a choice to give the care of God's inheritance to another for a number of hours each day, often five days a week.
In Deut.11:16 &18-22 Moses told the people this -

16 Take heed to yourselves, that your heart be not deceived, and ye turn aside, and serve other gods, and worship them;
18 Therefore shall ye lay up these words in your heart and in your soul, and bind then for a sign upon your hand, that they may be as frontlets between your eyes.
19 And shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
20 And thou shalt write them upon the door posts of thine house, and upon thy gates:
21 That your days may be multiplied, and the days of your children, in the land which the Lord swore unto your fathers to give them, as the days of heaven upon the earth.
22 For if ye shall diligently keep all these commandments which I command you, to do them, to love the Lord your God, to walk in all his ways, and to cleave unto him;
23 Then will the Lord drive out all these nations from before you, and ye shall possess greater nations and mightier than yourselves.

Look at the promises given for obedience to these instructions! Multiplied, or increased days; in other words longer life, for you and your children, plus the driving out of other nations and possession of nations greater than yourself. In other words you will not have to fear being overpowered by enemy nations but will possess them!

We can see by these scriptures, that even before Jesus came and brought us a new and living way that leads to life eternal, God intended for parents to see to it that their children knew His words and knew to serve him and love him. He did not instruct them to find teachers to teach their children these things, but gave instruction; detailed instructions, as to how to do this themselves. The parent would first have to know them himself and then pass them on. These words were to be kept in their heart and soul so that they would not be deceived. These words were to be seen and known by their children continuously and it was the parent who was to see to this. This was not designated to others.

How much more is it important that our children know the words of life; the words of Jesus!

How many youth ministers spend their time out trying to reach and rescue someone elses child, who has gotten pulled down by the world and the deceits of the enemy. Their parents may or may not even appreciate the work he does. Later another youth minister may come behind them and try to minister to their children who had not had as much of their father or mother's time, because they were so busy in ministering to others.

How turned around things become when we do not recognize God's plan for us to grow our own garden first!

Notice in the Bible, that to be a bishop, some of the requirements were that he first be married, have children and that he was to preside over (have control of his children); that they be in subjection to him with all honor and respect.

1 Tim. 3:1-5 This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.
2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, ...
3 Not given to wine ...
4 One tht ruleth his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)

WHY?

1 Tim. 3:5-7 (For if a man know not how to rule (preside over[Strong's]) his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
6 Not a novice (newly planted, that is (figuratively) a young convert [Strong's]),
lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.
7 Moreover he must have a good report of them without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.

In other words, he had to first be experienced in the care and provision of his own garden first. (Notice the meaning for the word 'novice' was one newly planted.) He had to have grown to maturity himself and succeeded at handling his own family before he took on a position of presiding over others.

The Bible also tells us that a man who does not provide for his own house has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. As a believer he should know that it is the will of God for him to provide for his own family.

1Tim. 5:8 But if any provide not for his own , and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
(an infidel is one that is not a believer in Christ)

The woman's body tells her what God's will is for her.

God designed her so that her child would be completely dependent on her as he grew and developed in her womb for nine months. Then he made it to be that the baby would come from the womb to her breast. If a baby is laid on his mothers skin and nursed immediately at birth, the suckling will cause her body to produce a hormone that aides in preventing hemorraging after the birth and causes contractions that loosen the placenta from the wall of the womb, so that it can be delivered intact.
It will help the baby not to loose body heat and need an incubator to restore it and it will soothe and comfort the baby on it's arrival into it's new surroundings. The baby will begin to receive a substance called colostrum, which has a high protein and antibody content, that will line his intestines preparing them to receive the milk that is to come and to ward of germs and infection.
It was God who designed that a child be fed and nurtured in the arms of his mother. God made it plain what his will was, by his own design. But the god of this world has worked long and hard to keep the eyes of God's creation from seeing these simple truths or valuing his will and plan.

Yes, things have gotten all mixed up.

2 Cor. 4:4 In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them.


Preachers urge people to go out into various avenues of ministry; to seek God for His call for their lives. But the first ministry He has for us, is that of the care of our own garden, our own, family. He wired into our being. This is where we are to first learn to let God lead, direct and use us in the building of His kingdom and the doing of His will.

Ps. 127:1 "Except the Lord build the house (Strong's, ... family ...), they labor in vain that build it ..."

And brother and sister, God builds His own way, according to His own will and design. 

Titus 2:3, 4 and 5 That the aged woman likewise, ... 
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, ( see the blog ), good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed,

My such strong language!

Does this scripture really suggest that if a woman is not a keeper at home, the word of God is blasphemed? Folks this is very important! God designed us. He wrote His plan for us into our very makeup. He planned that we tend our own garden first. He planned that we tend our own relationship with Him before we attempt to reach the world. How can we give to others something we do not have ourselves?

There is no plan better than God's; no design more perfect, with more evidence of it's purpose.


Prov. 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto council is wise.

Satan is always glad when he can turn a person's eyes from the wisdom and purpose of God, to look beyond, even if be on the problems of others, so he can sneak in and destroy his house.

But you say, "Are we not to reach out to others?"

Yes and we can and we will. Not before or in place of the place God has first called us. If we put our focus there first, with all care and devotion, we will find there will be many opportunities to reach other lives. But know this too, that when we tend to our own garden, others see it, and recognize something there is right and good. Others will be drawn to the truth as they see it lived out in you and yours.
Each child of our own that we raise following His plan and His instructions, dying to self that they might live, grow and be useful men and women of God, is a soul for His kingdom, His heritage, who will influence many others it their lifetime.

So little mother, never underestimate your role as a mother and a wife. It is the call of God. Tend your own garden and grow it well and others will see your good works and glorify the Father above!

Hard working Fathers, never underestimate your role as husband, provider and father. You reflect the image of Father God. Care well for the family He has placed in your hands and others will see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.

                             Let us each tend our OWN garden first!

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