Come, Let Us Reason

Where's the Respect For the Adult, Professional, Psychologist, Woman, Christine Ford is Said to Be?
Why Treat an Accomplished, Overcoming, Adult Woman, Who is a Professor, Like a Child?
Where is Reason?
I am an adult woman. I am not cold-hearted. I am a sensitive person. This, however does not mean that I did not have the ability to grow in maturity and wisdom from my youth until now. We are hearing all sorts of emotional rants concerning Christine Ford and what she may be going through since her allegations against Brett Kavanaugh were made public. Now as a thinking, reasoning adult, it only stands to reason to me, that between the age of approximately 15 (approximate since she does not know the year her assault was supposed to have taken place) and now, 36 years later, Mrs. Ford has also had time to grow and mature. Which seems apparent as she is a psychologist and professor of statistics at Palo Alto University. And she has worked as a research psychologist for Stanford University's Department of Psychiatry (https://en.wikipedia.org/)
Psychology is - (Dictionary.com) - 1. the science of the mind or of mental states and processes. 2. the science of human and animal behavior
In other words. Mrs Ford has had training in the human psyche. Of course, this does not mean that she is exempt from suffering herself. But it does suggest that as an adult and a professor who has studied in this field, and also with the political climate at this time, she would be well aware of what the consequences of making public such an allegation could be. I am not saying any of this to make light of her pain and suffering, or to suggest it does not still affect her life, if indeed it did take place, but simply to say that 36 years after the fact and with all of her knowledge of the human psyche, she would have a good idea of what to expect.
Some may say they understand why a victim of such abuse will put off reporting the matter. And I would imagine that if anyone understands the psychology of this, it should be Christine Ford, the psychologist.
However, while understanding the psychology and the result of emotional trauma on the victim, it is also reasonable that Mrs. Ford would have an idea of the psychological response and political reaction that would likely take place once she spoke out.
So then, it stands to reason that she would know beforehand that there would be a demand for proof of her allegations and that she would be expected to be asked to face the accused and state her accusation. Being a woman, having suffered emotional and psychological pain, will not eliminate the process to be expected when you make such an allegation. A woman of her age and stature would know this. She would also know that making an allegation against such a public figure would stir empathy and sympathy, but also anger and outrage. None of this would be a surprise to her.
It is not as though she is making this allegation a few days after the supposed incident, while she is only fifteen and the whole emotional, terrifying event is fresh on her mind and she is not thinking straight. No, it is 36 years later, after she has had time to seek mental and emotional help, get training in the field of the mind and emotions and to think things through and have a pretty good idea what she is going to face when she speaks out.
Brett Kavanaugh has been in public office for many years. At any time in the 36 years since Mrs. Ford says Mr. Kavanaugh was supposed to have molested her, she could have reported him or brought up charges against him.
As the knowledgeable professor that she is, she would know ahead of time, that she could not expect to simply throw out this serious accusation, go into hiding, and expect to be able to manipulate the legal process to suit her. She would know that without full proof of her claim, her charge would not hold. She would know that she would be expected to have to state her case and let the accused know clearly what the accusations against him were.
So why the game? Why state that she wants to come public, then say she is not ready? I give her too much credit as an intelligent psychologist and reasoning adult to not have already expected to have to face the music as soon as she made her allegations. To cry that she is being bullied, or mistreated, when she is offered a fair hearing, I find to be ridiculous. To expect the whole country to be put on hold while you try to prepare yourself to tell the only truth you know and that you should have known to be prepared for before you opened your mouth is not reasonable. I choose to give her credit for being a professional woman. She has been offered a private hearing. She has been told they will come to her in a private place. She has been treated respectfully and delicately. She has not claimed rape. She claims to not know when the incident occurred, or where it occurred. She has given no serious evidence that can be examined. She has made her claim and then been uncooperative.
She is not a child. Respecting her as a mature, educated, professional woman, trained in psychology, means to me, to expect her to behave as such. To expect her to act as a frail, young, unknowing, unexpecting teenager who had no idea what she was about to face, is, in my view, not treating her as she ought to be treated.
Certainly, once she made her move, she may have been flooded with unexpected emotions. But as a psychologist, I would think she should have known this was a possibility. She had 36 years to come to the decision to speak out and had enough knowledge and understanding to know she would have to buck up and do what was needed. It is time to stop the games. If you are going to go to battle, even knowing you are in the right, you know you will have to fight the fight. So take a deep breath, go out there and cooperate and get the job done, or make it clear once and for all you have changed your mind. No more talk of her needing more time. She has had 36 years.

Equality of the sexes? What Does it Mean To You?

Equality of the sexes? What Does it Mean To You?

1 Corinthians 11:11 Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.

Of course, I take a Biblical view, so I see men and women of equal value. I also take into account what God did and said on the day of creation and find that he created the male and female with physical differences and gave them specific roles; their differences making no difference in value and each needing the other. But I understand that this is not the worldview. What is? The push for equality of women has been hard and loud to say the least. Women have considered such gestures as opening a car door for them, assisting them, etc. as gestures of condescension. Movies portray women out fighting on an equal basis as men in martial arts etc. Women now speak as coarse, and dirty as men, if not more so. Women present themselves in immoral ways in protests in the streets. And women claim the right to sexual freedom as well as the right to kill any baby that is conceived as a result. But then, when a woman claims to be mistreated sexually, it is expected that she should automatically be believed - because - she is a woman. Suddenly, she is to be perceived as quite different from men, more vulnerable, more fragile and so on. Suddenly, to be seen in such a light is no longer offensive and in fact, if you do not see her as the weaker sex, in this instance, you better watch out! Should you say that women are sometimes sexually aggressive, cross into men's personal space, give 'come ons' that might encourage a man to think she is wanting a sexual encounter, or tease men, you may face an onslaught of insults and vicious anger. But if women are to be seen as being on a level playing field with men, and we are to believe that it is common for the male of the species to behave in such manners, why should we not think women would to?
The fact is, no woman should be misused or abused. Neither should any man be manipulated, misused or abused by a woman. How wonderful it would be if the differences in the sexes would be appreciated and respected without one sex thinking it had to be just like the opposite sex in order to be of equal value. But as wrong as it is, this seems to be the mindset of many to their own detriment.
I am tired of hearing men put down, insulted, and expected to be some inferior, inconsiderate creature to be lorded over by women. I am tired of rude, gruff women who are an insult to their own sex. I hate the idea of women using their sexuality to manipulate men, then after getting the attention they sought after, blaming the men for their reactions. I hate the idea of men pretending to be caring and considerate of a woman's needs only until they get what they want. And in this day and age, that all can probably also be reversed.
There are moral, considerate, selfless men and women in this world. There are abusers and victims. But in this crazy, ungodly world, when you hear someone cry 'wolf,' it is wise to be sure if there is a wolf and who the wolf really is before trying to destroy it.
Women if you want to act like men on a daily basis, don't be surprised if you are judged like them too. If you want to act vulgar, do not be surprised to be treated in the same manner as you disrespect yourself. It will not make it alright for you to be abused. But let me put it this way, if you put yourself in an unsafe place, do not expect to be safe. Again - this does not excuse abusers in any way! I only say do not be surprised if something unsafe happens in an unsafe place.
What is sad, is that as men and women so blatantly and consistently disrespect themselves, those women who are true 'ladies,' honorable ladies, who do respect themselves and the opposite sex, sometimes suffer the consequences of those who do not and the effect they have had on our society.
Sadly men who are true men, and comfortable in their masculinity, respectful of the opposite sex and godly, sometimes suffer the consequences of those men who are not, and the effect those men are having on our society.
Woman, if you are in a situation where you are being disrespected and mistreated - leave! Go to a safe place! You are valuable and deserve to be treated as precious.
Man if you are being looked down on and insulted for your masculinity, stand up and be an honorable, masculine man nonetheless.
But I warn you, the present worldview may be very unkind to you, if you are ever falsely accused. If you are a man, you may be expected to be guilty by reason of your sex. If you are a woman who is molested, you may not be heard when you ought to be, and may not be above suspicion. Because that is what the world's mixed up, uncertain, ideas of equality has brought us to.
When men try to fix their issues without listening to God and following His ways, the results are what we see in our world today. But it is not too late to learn a better way. And if and when you do go God's way, He will sustain you. He will bring you through all the muck and mire of the world. Because no matter what mess is in the world - HE - has overcome the world!

John 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.









What is true equality? It is when each of us become God's child and we take, as our own, the value He who gave His life for us, has placed on us - just as we are -! It will then be alright to be all female or all male, different but of equal value and importance, each needing and appreciating the other and each living in the love oh his or her heavenly Father.


But what does equality of the sexes really mean to you? Do you want to find out what God intended for you as a male or a female? If so, you might start in Genesis, read slowly, and ask God to reveal His truth and His mystery to you. It is worth knowing, fo His way is the way of peace and blesing.